Tempers may flare more frequently in the summer months and lead to increased conflicts. Statistics have indicated that tempers flare more often around summertime. Sociologists call this happening heat aggravation; real creative huh? Well at least it sounds just like it is. Heat aggravation is what happens hot and humid temperature cause people to feel stressed out by things that would normally just urk them. Average Austin temperatures range from ninety-three to ninety-eight degrees Fahrenheit, this time of year. Combine this with humidity and even ninety degrees feels like one hundred. How serious can this be? Increases in temperatures correlates with increases in assaults and even murders. Keep reading to extinguish these heat-fueled fights and keep your family chillin on through till fall.
My grandmother, a wise Scottish woman, once said a tiny bit of prevention is worth a stone of cure. Converted into American measurements that is, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. In the spirit of prevention, here are actions that can head off summer heat aggravations. Moderate your bod-keep yourself cool. Buy a small above ground pool. Sure they can look trashy but get one and watch how fast those neighbors that say that will be trying to invite themselves over. Maybe you are tired of hanging around the house with the kids and need an affordable outing? You are in the right city to stay cool, there are so many places to get out of the house and keep cool in Austin. If you haven’t been to Barton Spring’s pool yet you must go see this natural wonder. Due to its popularity I’d recommend going in the middle of the week if you can manage. Hamilton pool nature preserve is nearby in Dripping Springs. On Lake Travis, there are many good places to swim like near Starnes Island and the Mansfield dam park. If you prefer smaller bodies of water, take a day trip to Krause Springs or the Blue hole. If you like camping and grilling check out Inks Lake state park. For more information about Austin’s aqua wonders, go to Yelp and type in Austin natural pools.
If like a lot of us, swimsuits scare you here are some other ways to keep cool. Good places to soak up that friendly Freon are copious in the capital city. Since laughter is a great way to take conflicts and fights and make them seem ridiculous, I recommend getting the down-low on the Paramount theatre summer series performances. I hear the funny Indian guy, Aziz Ansari, from the Adam Sandler movie Funny People, is performing July 31. I have also heard good things about the Hideout theatre, which has improve performances throughout the week. That is not to say feelings or issues are not warranted, or to give up hope about finding resolution. Just the opposite-laughing about our pain often relaxes us enough to find solutions we couldn’t see under the cloud of frustration (www.events.austin360.com).
If a clash has already happened and tempers are boiling, try utilizing three simple de-escalation steps.
One, say: Honey, it’s okay, we can work this out. You can talk to me.
Two: use a soft tone of voice and soft facial expressions this will help everyone to remain calm.
Three: if tempers keep flaring take a break and come back to the issue later.
Hint: It is best to try these steps at a time when you are both rested, feed and of course in a cool place. Never underestimate the importance of our basic human needs!
For more on de-escalation and conflict resolution look out for my future article on fighting correctly with friends and sweeties at http://www.cakechow.com/x-42054-Austin-Relationship-Counseling-Examiner