Negative self-esteem is the root of many ills in our society today. Barbara Williams Cosentino, RN, CSW, writes on self-esteem issues for Swedish Hospital, in Seattle Washington. Self esteem Information can be accessed through their online health library:
“Chronic insecurity is a cultural epidemic” most women won’t talk about, writes Beth Moore, bestselling author, speaker, Bible teacher and women’s ministry leader. Moore’s definition of insecurity is to feel insecure or inferior. She believes such feelings, inflamed by media advertising and inner dialogue, drive women to strive for perfection.
She writes that women logically understand perfection is impossible, but advertisers prey on their emotions not logic. Advertisements lead women to believe if they follow the right exercises, read the right book, or take the right pill they too can look, think and act like the flawless women portrayed. Advertisers also teach women to value men’s love and opinion over their own self-value and that real success comes from money, power and status.
Moore exposes these lies and other negative influences in her new release So Long Insecurity. She typifies insecurity as a “bad friend” with characteristics that cripple and keep women focused on self instead of God. She writes that women of all ages battle one or more self-condemning issues that breed self-sabotage and prevent women from seeing themselves as God sees them.
She begins with men in chapter one and says “men are not our problem; it’s what we are trying to get from them that messes us up.” Chapters two through seven identify contributory causes of insecurity, such as personal relationships, self-condemnation, family issues, divorce, home instability, pride and foolish actions. Chapters eight through eighteen combine God’s truth with specific Scriptures to resist advertiser’s lies and that negative inner voice women affirm themselves with.
I particularly enjoyed chapter eight where Moore writes about the “prize of dignity.” She explains how a “root of insecurity” triggers self-condemnation that can be activated by the smallest incident. From interpreting an e-mail as unfriendly, to attempted reconciliation with a friend who doesn’t respond to the overture. Moore’s own journey to security grew out of that “thorny soil of insecurity.” She writes “Every fear I’ve faced, every addiction I’ve nursed, every disastrous relationship and idiotic decision I’ve made” grew in the weeds of insecurity.
It wasn’t until God led Moore to a new understanding of Proverbs 31: 25 “She is clothed with strength and dignity…” could Moore reclaim her “God-given dignity.” She dissects verse 25, phrase by phrase to gain the strength and wisdom necessary to battle the weakness of insecurity. While recognizing that pride can imitate dignity. Dignity is an attribute women only need to claim, not necessarily feel.
So Long Insecurity encourages women of all ages to realize negative feelings are curable once they’re understood. She invites readers to join her on her “quest for real, lasting, soul-deep security.” I agree with Moore and believe it’s a journey worth taking.
So Long Insecurity, by Beth Moore, Tyndale House Publishers, 2010, Hard cover, 368 Pages, ISBN-13: 978-1414334721, $24.99