You had a wonderful evening, had dinner, held hands, exchanged numbers and maybe you did end up kissing to finish off the date. It’s the next day and you’re coming down from the high from the previous night and before you know it, you’re thinking – What now?
Do you call him first? Do you facebook stalk him to see if he posted anything on his wall after the date? Do you wait three days before calling him?
What do you do, when you hit it off with someone and you don’t want him to slip away?
Well, first things first, DON’T PANIC! It’s the worse thing that you can ever do. When you start panicking, overthinking and over-analyzing every single little detail that had happened on the date, you’re going to make a mistake that you’ll end up regretting the next day.
The second step to a successful potential second date is to relax. Relax and continue on living your life the way it was before this amazing date had occurred.
Go to work, go to school, hang out with friends and make sure that your mind is always occupied. If your mind is filled with other things than your date then there are less chances of screwing up and better chances in snagging a second date.
If he doesn’t call you, then take initiative and call him. Calling him repeatedly is a little too much. But if you call him once, a couple of days after your date, then it’s all right. Women these days don’t have to wait for the guy to call anymore.
If you’re the shy type and you don’t have enough courage to call then wait for his. If he doesn’t call you, well, let’s just write him off as a jerk and he wasn’t worth your time and effort anyways. There thousands of men in Montreal so why not follow the Samantha Jones philosophy. Pick, choose and play!
If you don’t get a second date don’t allow yourself to wallow in your own misery. You have to remind yourself that it was his loss for not wanting to get to know you more and tomorrow is another day so get ready to be on the prowl.
Most guys don’t know what they want out of life but when they do find out, you’re the center of their world.
Just remember – nice guys DO finish last. We just need to be patient enough for him to walk around the corner, open their eyes and be smart enough that what they’re looking for is right in front of them.
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