During a recent doubles match, my tennis partner and I were winning by several games when all of a sudden she started playing cautiously and safely, and our opponents started rapidly catching up. As we were getting ready for the next game I said, “let’s finish this up.” She responded, “I know, I’m playing like I don’t want to lose instead of like I want to win.” after she said that, her game picked up quite a few notches. It excited her to win. That seemingly simple statement, “I’m playing like I don’t want to lose” stuck with me. How many of us are going through our lives with a similar attitude? Are we in it just because we’re here, are we in it for the challenge, or are we in it to get the most out of it?
When I started my own business I ran into a lot of naysayers who shared a million reasons why I shouldn’t start a business. Quite frankly, the things they said, were the very things that made me wait so long to start the business…what if it fails? what about the economy? why give up a good career?..etc… That’s the equivalent of playing not to lose, it was safe to stay where I was, it was a risk to venture out on my own. I had to get myself into the position where I was playing to win. I wouldn’t have started a business if I didn’t believe I would succeed. Even in a poor economy, there are businesses succeeding, and as far as the career goes – for me, it wasn’t a great career because I wasn’t fulfilling my life’s mission. In the end, I made the decision that I am indeed playing to win, and I’m having the time of my life.
Playing to win in life
- Play smart – in life, this means being committed to yourself, to your vision, to your life’s mission.
- Playing to win allows you to create the right attitude.
- Playing to win allows you to achieve your dreams and goals.
- The play to win mindset allows you to overcome your obstacles.
- Playing to win means you can overcome your fears.
- Playing to win equates to achieving success as you define it for your life.
If you are not going after what you really want:
- Identify your fear and remind yourself that fear can be overcome
- Focus on your goals, your desired outcomes, your rewards
- Replace your fear with a winning attitude (make your dreams come true)
- Realize that obstacles are a part of life and they are meant to be overcome
- Take calculated risks to do what you want to do and to be who you want to be
Get a little more life in the balance
Our Detroit Tigers are in town this weekend. Friday night is 80’s promotion, Saturday is Fireworks night and of course, Sunday is Father’s Day and they’re playing the Arizona Diamondbacks.
River Fun Days, June 18-21, Rivard Plaza in Detroit.
Dearborn Arab International Festival, June 18-20, East Dearborn, Warren Ave between Schaefer and Wyoming. For more info visit the American Arab Chamber of Commerce
© Michelle L. Seyfarth, PhD 2010
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