You think that man of yours is absolutely gorgeous, right? What happens if your best gal pal thinks so too? You need to heed some valuable advice to keep both relationships in check…and keep the worst from happening.
It’s great that your boyfriend and your bestie get along. They have lots in common, namely you! But lately, your BFF seems a little too fond, even flirty, around your honey.
Perhaps she’s licking those thick, pouty lips of hers a bit too often. She giggles girlishly while hanging on his every word? Then she may be enamored with your Mr.Wonderful.
Before buying your friend a one way ticket to Nowheresville, look for other signs that she’s interested.
• She finds ways to become engrossed in one-on-one conversation with him-even asking advice while playing the “Damsel in Distress”.
• She laughs a little too hard at his silly jokes…even the bad ones.
• She calls you when she knows he’s there for ‘alone’ time.
• Her body language says it all; leaning into him with a sultry ‘come hither’ look.
Most importantly, trust your instincts; if your ‘Diva Senses’ say it, then believe it. You know in your heart if your friend is really going after your man.
“Before burning bridges I would use caution” advises Ashleigh, a 27 year old manicurist from Franklin. “I’ve allowed my jealousy to threaten relationships before and it’s never been easy to mend them. Good friends are hard to find. I have one friend that is extremely flirty by nature, so I know how she acts…that’s just her” she adds.
Consider whether or not your best friend’s moves might be harmless.
• Could she think he’s wonderful just because you do? If you’ve known her for a long period of time, that could be the case.
• Is she in a relationship?
• How have her past relationships ended?
• Has she been known to crash other relationships in the past?
• Does she ask highly personal and inappropriate questions about him?
• How does your boyfriend react to her advances?
Most importantly, think of how your friend would react if you confronted her. Often, the tables are turned and you are portrayed as insanely jealous to all involved. It’s probably best to keep your feelings from Mr. Wonderful for the time being, also. After all, there are a few things you can do to put the brakes on the proverbial runaway train.
• Plan group activities with a number of friends when going out and limit the personal interaction between the two.
• Schedule activities with your BFF completely separate of your boyfriend. If the two of you were practically conjoined before what’s-his-name came along, this could be her cry for attention. After all, how many relationships has she seen you through?
• Keep your couple time personal. Turn off your phone so you won’t be tempted to answer.
Most importantly, quietly monitor the situation and take mental notes. Only you can decide if and when a confrontation is required. It is possible that your cougar claws need to be sharpened, just in case. I call it my Teddy Roosevelt plan because I walk softly and carry a big lipstick.
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