Our lives are a tapestry of experiences that vary considerably from one culture to another. A child raised in Germany will probably have an appreciation of music and travel, while those raised in Kenya might have an understanding of wildlife and a strong appreciation of family communities.
Through our experiences, our attitudes are formed and they influence the way we interact with love, hate, and romance.
Hardship and suffering can often serve as a catalyst for a deep appreciation of what is and not what is missing. When you date people from cultures that have survived war, famine, disease, poverty or religious persecution, you may find they offer a warmth and happiness that is hard to form in a life of relative ease.
Not everyone has perfect English, but your hearts might speak the same language.
What to expect when you are dating a Turkish man?
First you should keep in mind that Turks usually don’t mix with other cultures. They boast of the purest records in Europe. They don’t cross pollinate! They might date local girls, yet, when it’s time to get married they bring home a Turkish bride, often from Turkey and usually younger.
It wouldn’t be fair to say that they NEVER marry a foreigner, but not many of them are able to go against their cultural traditions and introduce a non-Turk woman to their parents.
Usually they are faithful to their religion and traditions. They are very close to their families and communicate very often either by phone or through get-togethers.
On the Good side
Turkish men show their love every day, and don’t just say ”I love you’. They are affectionate. They want to know where you are and what are you doing. They want to make all the decisions and always have a need to be reassured of their relationship.
They would not show their affection in public, but holding hands is ok.
They treat every woman like a lady and are very respectful.
Some of them confess that they think of North American girls as of a little bit “more demanding”, but admit that they are “happier than they would be with a Turkish woman”.
Meet Monica – She Dates A Turkish Man
“I never thought I would be attracted to this type of man – dark haired, masculine individual with chopped English, from a different culture. In my perception, the men from that part of the World would be controlling and demanding, but I was surprised to discover a generous heart.
Despite of some difficulties in communication, I never felt more comfortable and never had more interesting conversations. He is paying attention and notes everything that I need at the moment.
When I started dating him, I discovered how naïve I was of life in other parts of the world. I can’t even relate to what he went through. Compared to his problems, my own seem ridiculously small. We can feel victimised by our parent’s divorce and are oblivious of other people’s experiences.
I was surprised to see so much compassion and support a person who went through such a hardship. He didn’t get bitter of his hardship. He has no judgements, no assumptions. He is very accepting.
I admire his ability to change his future. I feel a confidence in him. He made the impression on me that if he lost everything, he would rebuild.
Another thing I noticed in admiration – how much he valued relationships and a partner. I felt included in his life and work.
He is open-minded in regards of my own personal life. Once we bumped onto a male friend of mine and he was totally ok to see my friend’s a little enthusiastic hugs and kisses and never asked any questions afterwards. I think Canadian men would not be tolerant of this. Usually they would have questions.”
A Different View of Canadians – How the World Sees You
Canadians are socially reserved, they don’t show their emotions. Europeans are often appalled at the stoic stance of Canadians and wish we would “lighten up, smell the roses, sing and dance – make love with life!”
Being raised on different continents, many intercultural couples have found a new life by embracing the best of each other. Learning to adjust, to learn, to express can enhance your love relationship and create a bond that lasts a lifetime.