Poor Dad. Very often Dad feel like Steve Martin’s character in the movie “Father of the Bride”. Dads usually feel shut out of the wedding planning, and, occasionally feels like he is nothing more than a walking, talking ATM without any input. Here are a few ways to include Dad in planning your wedding:
Give Dad some specific assignments. While you might not want your Dad picking out your wedding invitations, there is no reason he can help by getting prices from various printers or be in charge of picking them up when they are ready. Ask his opinion about your seating chart for your reception, and, if he good at organizing – put him in charge of it. Or have him arrange for your transportation on your wedding day (in New York City this can be a challenge all in itself.) There are lots of things you can do to help get your Father involved, however, it is important to ask rather than tell him what to do. Chances are you’ll see him brighten up a bit and attack his projects for your wedding with gusto!
Spend time with him. Yes, it looks and sounds oblivious, but, if you are spending most of your free time with your Mom, bridesmaids, and, husband to be, Dad is probably feeling ignored and hurt. Let him know that he is still a major part of your life and that he is very important to you, and, schedule some time to do the things you like to do together. Go out to dinner (just you and Dad) or go have a picnic together in Central Park or go to the Museum of Natural History together and enjoy a show at the planetarium or challenge him to a game of badminton (or whatever game you enjoy playing together); and, most importantly, talk to him and not just about the wedding! Ask his advice about a problem at work or tell him you are having a tough time trying to pick out a color to paint your new house. The bottom line is to make sure he knows you are still his little girl, and, that is still a major player in your life.
Get Dad a gift. Dad is probably going to be your rock on your wedding day. The one who doesn’t get as flustered like everyone else who is running around in an almost frantic panic. He’ll be the one walking you down the aisle and giving you away to another man. While this is your day, it is a nice and very thoughtful gesture to get Dad a present for everything he has done for you. And, put some thought into it! For example, did he take you to your first Yankees or Mets game? Get two tickets to an upcoming ball game for just you and him. Is Dad the type who loves to golf? Get him a gift card for the The Golf Club at Chelsea Piers. You get the idea, just make sure it comes from the heart and it is something with meaning for him.