Webster’s dictionary defines flirting as “being playfully romantic”; and romantic as “appealing to ones emotions”.
With the rise of more accountability in the church, flirting is more under scrutiny since the church might be questioning if it is a ‘worldly’ idea or if it is permissible. It is so important to guard ones heart these days since the advertising, media, and other pollutes crowd and distract even the most dedicated servant of God.
When God created humans, with no other exception, He said it was very good. Adam needed a help-mate and the other creation was not ‘cutting it.’ Eve, being the mother of humanity, was created and given to Adam for His enjoyment and for the purpose of creating the first team. God gave her, not Adam to himself. Adam didn’t even realize the possibility of another person since he was created at the end of the Divine 7-day week. God had Adam’s needs met even before he even had the need.
The idea of flirting or engaging with the opposite sex for the possibility of creating a relationship. The media does the same thing: car commercials, for example, saying this is a need and using picture-speak to create the emotions needed to cause someone to take action to put out the ‘flame’ of desire. Should the church be taking the same avenue as the media to cause someone else to take notice of them and create the need of a relationship by means of flirting?
So what about this flirting within the Body of Christ? Is it right or is it wrong? Your writer will give you the universal M.B.A answer: it depends. A Christian can send mixed signals to a person of the opposite sex that causes confusion to the recipient, misunderstanding the intention of the other. Women read things differently than men; with one ‘nudge’ to a woman’s shoulder with a man’s arm can means different things to her; it could really mean, ‘Hey, you’re in my way,’ or ‘Hey, so glad you’re in my way.” Basically, whether it is right or wrong really depends upon the woman and the relationship the guy has with her. If you’re interested in her, say so, or forever hold your peace. The guy must understand whether or not the girl would allow such a comment being made to her – she will give signals to help show it would be alright to tell her that you like her.
Men think differently than woman. A girl might send a message to a guy that is misinterpreted causing the guy to look like an idiot if he tells her he likes her only to find the girl is wondering why he would say such a thing. A woman might think of sharing with a guy that she likes him, but your writer believes the convention that women must not take the leadership role when there might be relationship – if the guy doesn’t have the courage to tell you ladies, he’s not worth it anyway.
Just like course-jesting is not recommended from the Bible because it sets up the attitude of conversation to be not Christ-focused or flesh, Christian flirting should be in the same category. You ask, ‘Well, how would I know if the guy/girl likes me if I don’t say anything?’ Good question; however, did Adam ask for Eve? Also, God made Eve so that Adam: 1) Would be attracted to her; 2) Their personalities would be compatible; 3) Would be common interests, e.g. God. Look for common interests of the one who want to be with. It is all about intentions and how the emotional interaction will be used – a friendship or romantic.
Your writer knows it’s a clique, but look to God for your intentions. For a guy: Is this girl someone who holds possibilities or am I just looking at her looks and trying to make me feel better as a single person since guy’s like to have a least one girl in mind when the romantic songs come over the radio.
South Florida has plenty of possibilities, but not all people are beneficial.