How many parents would take the opportunity to go sit with their kids in their school classrooms today?
Most parents would agree, in today’s rat race, not everyone has the time to be an active participant in their child’s PTA, that’s Parent Teacher Association, for the uninitiated. For sure, sitting with a child and keeping up with them as they move from class to class, may open a window into their daily lives that a parent may not soon forget. The organized chaos and the cacophony of hundreds of little feet and voices every 45 minutes, as the bell sounds, and as everyone hurriedly makes their way from class to class, could possibly be overwhelming to many.
Studies show that engaged and involved parents can truly have an impact on their kids. School systems today afford parents ample opportunities to communicate with staff, or to sit in the same classroom with their kids. Sure it sounds a little daunting, but consider what could happen in the instance of parental apathy. Of course, parents should consider the fallout either way. Will the child be nervous or embarassed? What’s the desired end result? Would the visit help him in any way? Is there a medical issue, such as Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) or Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD) which the child is contending with? Interestingly, aside from peer pressure, bullying and other non-medical issues affecting their performance and their grades, many of those bright eyed children in today’s school system, also have to deal with the ADD and ADHD issue.
Many parents may or may not observe the symptoms of ADD and ADHD and not necessarily seek professional assistance. In fact, some may have the tendency to believe that their child will grow out of the listlessness, forgetfulness and disorganization of ADD; or the impulsiveness, inattention or fidgety nature of the ADHD child . Kids with ADD or ADHD may watch television, tune everything else around them and completely ignore the people around them. They have difficulty staying on task, and completing classwork and homework. More and more families today are splitting up and co-parenting is difficult enough, but it’s even more difficult when both parents barely communicate. To help these ADD and ADHD kids, it takes an “all hands on deck” approach. The parents, teachers and professionals all need to work together to aid the child.
That brings us back to co-parenting. The school system may allow a parent the honor of sitting in on his or her child’s class, but the fact is unless both parents have a common goal and a common plan to deal with the issue, the child, particularly, an ADD child, will be lost. Teachers today have to be psychologists, counselors, friends, and subject matter experts in legal affairs. Parents owe the hardworking teachers of today the support they deserve. Even though the law provides for mediation, co-parenting classes and such for separated and divorced parents, there really is no follow up or legislation that will prevent kids from falling through the cracks. As their grades suffer, so do they on the inside, and there is no law that speaks to responsible parenting and suggested remedial treatment. Adults, particularly our elected officials, who perform the requisite research may better understand the best means to legislate the issue. The proof is in the pudding: Sam GoldStein, writing for mental-health-matters.com, states “.. individuals with ADHD come into contact with the criminal justice system at a statistically higher rate than others in the general population”. It stands to reason that the sooner school districts, health professionals, parents and legislators come to grips with the ADD and ADHD children in society, the sooner, they get a handle on improving scholastic achievement among the student population, as well as, reducing crime in the wider society. If such a situation unfolds for the greater good, everyone benefits.